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How long must you wait for love?
submitted 3 months 6 days 16 hours ago by: West Coast Eagle : 233 commentsGiven that love is not a mere illusion and it does happen.....how long must you wait to be united with your beloved....?
Does love have a time frame? Or should love have a time frame?
A month??
A year?
A decade?
A lifetime...???
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WAIT..........UNTILL YOU FIND A NEW ONE :)
Don't wait!
Sometimes love can outrun itself.
TAIMUR .
yes i agree with Iola do not wait for that beloved.
You fall in love because it brings happiness so why be miserable pining for lost love?
Or is it an addiction we are talking about here?
There is some misunderstanding about what I said. I meant, 'Don't wait, go for the wedding.' :)
Like I said, if your family is against this, don't do it. Eventually you will have to make the choice between her and 'them'
TAIMUR .
Ok so i misunderstood the comment by Iola anywayz.
What are the hurdles in the way of your marriage with that beloved?
OK GO FOR WEDDING.
Love can some times overturn itself.
So does that mean by waiting love can covert into hatred ,is that some chemical reaction or some thing .
My Suggestion:
Leave her alone and look for some one who suits your family and let her marry some one else IFFF your family is against it .
Isn't it like his family against her or her family against him kinda' thing and if that is there then you have to weigh where more happiness lies for you. Whateva is destined will happen. What the hell are you two delaying it for?
just keep alive the feeling...and you feel happy....
Love is not all about to get someone or to succeed......Its a pleasant feeling..Live with it....
Maza tub hai....jub kisse ke yaad martay dum tak sath rahay....ek ehsaas saree zindagee chalta rahay......
TAIMUR .
True lovers even wait till there hairs turn grey .
PYAR MAIN INTIZAAR KARNAY WALOON K TOO BAAL BHI SUFAID HOO JATAY HAIN.
I remember a song by Altaf Raja an indian singer .
ISHQ AUR PYAR KA MAZA LAIJYAY ,THOORA INTIZAAR K MAZA LAIJYAY.
Althought lovers do wait and can wait but i would say that you should not wait and let everyone know what are you waiting for , and what would be the outcome of that long delay.If your family is against that beloved after waiting will they accept her ?how .
love is like moonshine it wear out by morning. Make the best of a loosing proposition. life is short.
The problem is that her family is not willing and she is not even ready to offend her family in the slightest way. i understand her point but this cannot go on forever like this...right..?
Choices are to be made on time or you miss out....! I am very clear on that ans she is my ultimate choice no matter what....but thats now how it is on her side....she has other preferences...!
So here I am stuck in the middle....cannot find a way really :(
Simply put my situation is
"I cannot live with or without her".
This is going nowhere.
I know...thats why I feel so frustrated and really dont know what to do....!
Sometimes I think I will go crazy if I donot make the right choice now...but it is all in my hands....??
I mean the ball is not in my court, is it...??
No it's not in your hands. If she cannot take the aerial route as I call it you ppl can't do anything and this my dear is extremely destructive for both of u.
Let it go. Suffer for some time but you both need a break and some happiness out of this hell.
The way to happiness is through hell, haan...?
See I think this what you are going through is already hell.
To start with, one first needs to know what true Love is.
Take Care
Dr.Irfan Zafar
Start then...what is true love Irfan?
Yes I can explain that but before doing that I want only the ones who have ever fallen in Love to confess and then only those people will be allowed to take part in the discussion. I want serious people not the ones making fun of this cherished divine feeling called love. So who is in and who is out. Make honest confessions.
Take Care
Dr.Irfan Zafar
First thing first.
Why are love and marriage slated together?
I think i am the first one to confess on this forum...!
I am all ears, Dr. Sb!
i am the second one. who else
Let me be!
Ok lets wait for few more entries and then we will start the discussion. Ok
Fine with me....but what if there aren't any more to confess...or are too shy to do so...?
Ok we will start. If someones want's to enter during the discussion, let him confess first before any one of us reply to him.
According to the divine concept of true Love, it has no boundries nor can it be contained in a time frame. It is beyond these wordly concerns. Some think of marriage as the final destination of love. But for other's, this is not a detination..just an end of it.
It's just a start, lets see how others feel/view love.
Why don't you tell us what it means to you instead of all that Irfan?
TAIMUR .
I was in love but i am glad i am out of it and now that girl is married with kids. LOL so i was but now i am not . So can i be part of that discussion ,and in my opinion these are first stages later all the feeling dissappear and old saying
" PEOPLE GROW UP" so grow up.
I WAS SICK NOW I M OK SO CAN I BE PART OF THAT DISCUSSION.
Agreed, Dr. Sb.
It may also be true for marriage as an end of love in some instances......also in our society, isn't marraige the only way to be united with your love?
@ Taimur
I think you shouldn't generalize your expereince to everyone else's. its been 9 years for me and ever harder to get out, no matter how hard I try.....!!
Carry on with the discussion. I hope I get answers to my questions in the end...!
TAIMUR .
9 years man you must be kiddin i was in one sided love for 10 years.
Come on . At one stage i had very strong feeling for her and i use to think that i would never be able to forget her and now i glad she is not in my thoughts .
What ever happens happens for good. If i can come out after 10 years of love and now forget her .Why can't you come out of it and forget her .
I AM GLAD TODAY THAT I AM OUT OF THAT LOVE BUT I RUINED MANYY YEARS OF MY LIFE WHICH WOULD NEVER COME BACK AGAIN SO I WOULD REQUEST EVERYONE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT FALL IN LOVE.
@ Taimur
Even if the girl got married to someone else, don't you lie down at night when you close your eyes..don't you think about her. Don't you feel anything for her. Remember she must be feeling the same way. So despite you and her are married to different people, if it's true love, it will always be there. How can you get rid of the memories which will continue to haunt you till your death. Love remains..always.
@ West Coast Eagal
No, not necessarily. I have two friends. Both of them wanted to get married but because of ..well some unfortunate reasons..they could not get married. But till date whenever I see them sitting next to each other, that same feelings of love and being loved are around. They seem to have grown out of the worldly concerns and are flowing in the tide of love despite being living with their respective spouces. They care for each other as they used to do. Yes they have compromised on many counts as far as their married lives are concerned, but as far as love is concerned, it cannot be washed away.
@Iola
I think here we are having a discussion focussed on what is true love. Ok if you will confine it to any individual and his thinking, then I suppose this discussion will start revolving around personal issues which I feel that most of the members on this forum will not like. But Iola here I would like to add something which might address what you have asked. Humans by nature want posession. To have the feelings of control. To say "this is ours"..my husband, my wife. This element becomes part of love thus marriage being an ultimate destination. Now once that destination is reached..what next. Now strat defining love after marriage.
I told u before, I can write a book on love..this is just a start :-)
@ West Coast eagal
"its been 9 years for me and ever harder to get out, no matter how hard I try.....!!" Don't try..it won't help. some wounds can never be healed. Some memories can never be forgotten. Some moments cannot be washed away. No matter how hard you will try....she will always be there. trust me
TAIMUR .
TRY TRY AGAIN DON'T GIVE UP!
I AM OUT AFTER 10 AND ALL WOUNDS CAN BE HEALED.TRY TO COME OUT OF IT >
Perhaps...you are right...!
I know I am right. Ever wondered how many times both of you have cried. Do you value those tears....each drop has a meaning, a life and a beating heart. Just think of it. Can you forget that smile on her face. Isn't the time frozen. Can't you see those eyes still looking at you. Love friends....what else to live for
I am sorry but I dont understand this concept of being married to someone else and still being in love with the other person.
How the respective spouses handle that? Specially in our society and also how can you simply share your beloved with someone else....??
Is this love? I, in fact fear that situation.
- You do not control love. Love controls you.
- True Love is beyond society, social considerations.
- There is a difference between a Compromise and Love. In a marriage your love is making a compromise, so are you. But in reality you both love each other without any compromise.
- Handling of respective spouse.....this is fate and destiny. They have to live with it as you both are living with your love.
- In Love thir should not be fear. Ingact if their is fear, it's not love..simply infatuation, crush or just a transitory phase which will just vanish with time
Fear of loosing yor loved one or having to share your own being with someone else other than your beloved...isn't it love...?
As for infatuation and crush both have very limited time span and naturally wear out....!
Isn't there a possiblity for two people inlove to stay committed to eachother without having to marry someone else??
I never wanted to confine myself or my emotions to the dogmas of our society so I have flown away but these still haunt me where ever I am....!
Its pathetic isn't it....our society and the illogical constraints........??
Hmmm... that's rather mindblowing stuff from you Irfan!
Enlightening. :)
I wish others join the discussion as well for a variety of opinion...!
@ Iola
What about the stuff from me ;) ?
- love mind not body. love inner-self and its beauty not outside appearance
- Isn't there a possiblity for two people inlove to stay committed to eachother without having to marry someone else??.... Yes. But you just need to take care of the social/parents pressure. If you can sustain them though
- They will haunt you all your life. You can't run away from them
-Yup Pathatic..painful, torturous, agonizing, shattering, tormenting, nauziating, hurting, inflicting, ripping appart....But this is the only Life you have got, no matter how much you hate it.
Committ suicide if you can
@Iola
Yup. Love is my subject. Close to my heart..broken though
Come on now dont suggest that after all this discussion.....suicide not on the card yet....!
WCE.
I love the fact that you love. There is nothing better than that. I love the fact that you don't conceal it and seek to make something out of it. I wish you could make it come true for the girl whom u love.
suicide not on the card yet......... YET. Well I wrote just in case if you want to explore this option. I will surely support you. Dying for love is a also a hight only few blessed one's can achieve. Some women are worth dying for.